Have you ever heard that saying Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus? In since, I would like to think this is true. Men and women have different ways of communicating. Not only do men use different words than women, but also it is more than that. Pitch, tone, volume, facial expressions, and touch are all ways we can communicate than just the words we say. We have to analyze how they say it, and what they are doing when they say it. There are more factors that come into play when we actually are speaking.
When men are speaking their pitch is more closely the same. They probably don’t drag words out they just simply say it. When men are talking their tone in their voice can be more intimating depending on what they are saying. If they are angry, we can easily tell just by the tone in their voice. The volume of a man’s voice is at a normal tone, unless they are trying to be loud, they can actually be loud. You can tell a lot by their facial expressions when they are speaking, sometimes we can even catch them lying. When they say something and a little grin is showing up, more than likely they are “pulling your leg.” I don’t think men touch when they are talking unless they are asking for something they might try to hug you, but other than that they keep their distance, but women are a different story.
When women are speaking their pitch can vary. On certain words they drag out something almost like “valley girl.” For example when girls say, “oh my god” they normally drag this out too far at times. The tone of their voice is more caring, supportive, and the easy to talk to voice. We want to hear how you feel and what you think. The volume of some women can be so loud! My friend talks to loud, almost screaming and she says that’s her inside voice. Wow! Women’s facial expressions tell a lot about they say. You can tell if they are being sarcastic if they start laughing after what they say, we try to sneaky, but it never works out. When women talk they like to touch because we feel more connected with who we are talking too, but of course we only do this to people we trust and care about.
So are Men from Mars and Women from Venus? I think not, we just like to express our feelings differently. We might say it differently, but in the end we all mean the same thing. So yes of course we are speaking the same language! Men and women like to over exaggerate certain ideas, but we all are caring human beings that aren’t from different planets. So men, don’t think women are weird if they start giggling after what they say, they think they are just funny. Women, when the men start to hug you, they want something, so don’t give in so easily. You guys now know the secret language of human beings!
I think some men may be from Venus. I was going to try and do this topic from the perspective of drag-queens and gays, but being neither I had limited resources to draw on. I did grow up in Austin Tx though, which is a liberal strong hold and kinda like a little San Francisco when It comes to Alternative lifestyles for lack of a better phrase. I was always kinda fond of those alternative people because they were usually “what you see is what you get” kinda folk, and I respect that, no matter who you are.
ReplyDeleteIn general, the bull dykes were always trying to sound low voiced like men and the queens were trying to sound high and light. You can change your body though, well you can , but most of the time you can tell if a man is starting in falsetto and ending higher than he can sustain.
Phrases like “You go girl!” , “Oh no he didn’t” and “You tell him girlfriend” have been almost totally high-jacked by the trannies these days. I think I hear black girls with long fake nails say that kinda stuff on TV in the 90’s but it may have been Ru Paul…
Of course everyones heard gay men talk effeminately. Dropping strange open ended metaphors thickly laden with “Oh my God”s and stuff like “Oh, I know!” and “Oh Im sooo sorry baby…” with lots of hand waving and facial expressions.
Its almost as if they have taken the language in all different directions devoid of gender claims and ownership. I grew up with so many alternative people that me and my friends some times play with the voices, kinda like people try to sound black or redneck in a mocking way, but we quickly come out of it, but only after we’ve tried it on properly…
Not only is this true, but I also think that men and women also have different ideas, we all do right? Well at least I hope so. The only reason why they say men are from Mars and women from Venus, is because she are supposedly so "complicated". If men spent less time playing x-box or playstation and just payed a tad bit more attention on our body language we wouldn't have this problem. Right? who's with me? I agree on the part where you said we drag some girls out in an almost "valley girl" manner. I do that all the time, my tone usually changes whenever I say "oh my god" and I use that phrase very often, so now I will probably be more aware of "valley girl-esque" tone.
ReplyDeleteThis might not relate to the secret language of human beings,but we all tend to do the "u-huh""mhmm" whenever we are "listening" to someone telling their story. I actually listen, but I hate it when I'm talking to a guy friend or my brother and I'm trying to tell them a story or something that happen to me, and they gaze off , into some other planet. I then ask them a question and their response is priceless, the confused look on their face says it all, they were not paying attention while I was excitedly telling my story. Men in a sense are from Mars and Women are from Venus. I really enjoyed reading this blog, great choice on the topic.
Well, I hope that we are all from Earth to begin with! Seriously though, the differences between the way that men and women communicate does make it seem like we are from different planets. I really pay attention to the way things are said, the facial expressions, as well as the actual words that are used. These things can reveal messages inside of messages that can change what is actually being communicated.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, you are right: men don't usually just want to hug women that are non relatives just to be cool or friends with them. I’m just sayin’… I love the homies, don’t get me wrong, but I don't hug the homies or any other males like that. So if a female is a friend, then why should I be hugging all on her when we see each other? In my opinion, if a male wants to hug a female friend for no apparent reason, there is usually an underlying intention of getting closer to her in a physical way. But remember, the same can go for females also. I have had female friends hugging on me or casually touching my bald head, getting a little bit too “touchy feely”, if you know what I mean. This kind of "touchy feely" behavior among people can lead to that kind of nonverbal behavior being misinterpreted. This makes me think of the movie Friday, where Craig and Smokey are watching their female neighbor watering the grass with the little short-shorts on: “Mrs. Parker just don’t know!”
I agree that men and women speak the same language but we just communicate it differently. Men are just not that open and engaging when it comes to talking in general. Even when we talk about sports or women we are not engaged in the topic. We may be more interested but we can do it while we watch something or play something. Women like to be more engaged in a conversation and want their attention to be on them. Women want us to know that we are listening and are going to be there for them if they need to be comforted.The secret language of both genders will always be a work in progress to figure out.
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